![]() National Animal Care & Control Association. Welcome to NACA's Online Community! We have created this online space for NACA members to be able to create dynamic member profiles, collaborate together on projects, share your ideas and expertise with others – and, most important, connect with fellow NACA members. Share, collaborate, exchange and grow – that's why we're here, and we hope you are too. Engage and explore the new site, there are many exciting features that we hope you will find useful. As with any new site, there may be some areas that are not fully functional yet. Please bear with us and know that we will continually work to improve the member experience. If you find areas that appear broken, or have ideas on additional features you would like to see available on the new site, please let us know. Welcome. We're glad you're here! NACA Awards 2. 01. ![]() This web page is a resource for pastors who do premarriage counseling. It also includes a resource to help ministers design the wedding ceremony. Power in Psychotherapy and Counseling, a review of power of psychotherapists and clients in psychotherapy counseling, therapy, and psychiatry, including issues of. A recent study found that reading research-based articles together as a couple, and applying the advice from those articles to your relationship was just as effective. Each year, NACA presents awards to outstanding organizations and individuals in the animal care and control field. Nominations are being accepted for the NACA Awards to be presented at Training Conference 2. Virginia Beach, Virginia on October 1. NACA would like to thank the Petco Foundation for sponsoring this important event during this year's conference. To nominate someone for a NACA Award, visit the NACA Awards Nomination Page Award nominations will close on July 3. Training Conference 2. Virginia Beach, Virginia. October 1. 8- 2. 0, 2. The Founders Inn and Spa. Photo: Virginia Beach CVBIn partnership with the Virginia Animal Control Association, NACA Training Conference 2. NACA Annual Conference in recent years. We are expecting more than 3. Virginia Beach. You don't want to miss it! ![]() Registration is now OPEN! Follow this link for more information, and to begin the registration process for Training Conference 2. ![]() Training Conference 2. Registration. Follow this link for more information about the ABA Symposium: Animal Shelter Law. ABA Symposium Registration. You must register directly with the ABA to attend the symposium classes. ![]() Class size is limited. Are you interested in being a sponsor, or exhibiting during Training Conference 2. Click on the following link for more information: Exhibit/Sponsor Information Packet. All of Training Conference 2. Chapter 1 (Complete Chapter) History and Definitions of PTSD. Since you are reading this manual one of the followings things is. July 2011 Issue. Insights From Eating Disorder Counseling By Juliann Schaeffer Today’s Dietitian Vol. Patients with anorexia and other disorders can. Do not bill separately. ABA Symposium, have been approved for Certified Animal Welfare Administrator continuing education units. NACA Board of Directors Application. Are you interested in becoming a member of the NACA Board of Directors? The 2. 01. 7 Board Application process is now open. We will be accepting applications until 5. PM PDT July 1. 0, 2. To access the NACA Board of Directors Application, you must be a NACA Individual Member, and be logged into the NACA website. To learn more about the requirements to serve on the NACA Board of Directors, and/or to complete the NACA Board Application, click on the link below: NACA Board of Directors Application. If you have forgotten your log in information, contact the NACA Corporate Office, by calling 9. If you think you are a current member, do not create a new member ID, contact the Corporate Office for assistance.
Free Marriage Counseling: How to Do it Yourself. When marriages start going sour, couples are often urged to go see a therapist or to attend a workshop or seminar to help smooth out their difficulties. But these options are often quite expensive and outside a couple’s budget. ![]() If there’s already tension in your marriage, it’s probably not a wise idea to add financial stress to the problem by ponying up $1. And a lot of men aren’t keen on talking about their feelings to a stranger or a room full of strangers. We like to tackle problems ourselves. As it turns out, this bootstrapping mentality is not such a bad idea. A recent study found that reading research- based articles together as a couple, and applying the advice from those articles to your relationship was just as effective as attending a workshop or seminar. John Gottman, Ph. D. While many people think that what makes a happy or unhappy marriage is somewhat mysterious and divorce is hard to predict, he can watch a couple interact for only a few hours and then forecast with 9. He’s not a fortune teller; he simply looks for telltale signs in the way the couple interacts and handles their disagreements. Those that display what he calls the “four horseman of the apocalypse” have a high likelihood for divorce. If a couple can identify and rectify these behaviors, the marriage can often be saved. So let’s take a look at what the four horsemen are. Criticism. Criticism is not the same as complaining. Complaints center on specific actions and behaviors disliked by one’s partner, while criticism goes further and attacks the person himself. Here are examples from Gottman to illustrate the difference: Complaint: “I’m really angry that you didn’t sweep the kitchen floor last night. We agreed that we’d take turns doing it.”Criticism: “Why are you so forgetful? I hate having to always sweep the kitchen floor when it’s your turn. You just don’t care.”Complaint. There’s no gas in the car. Why didn’t you fill it up like you said you would? Criticism. Why can’t you ever remember anything? I told you a thousand times to fill up the tank, and you didn’t. She’s implying the problem is his fault. Even if it is, blaming him will only make it worse.)Criticism throws in blame and general character assassination. To turn a complaint into a criticism, add the line: “What is wrong with you?”Complaints are okay when each person is committed to addressing them respectfully. And criticism is something every couple deals with. It only becomes lethal to the marriage when allowed to fester into the next three horsemen. Contempt. The intimacy of marriage can bring people healing and acceptance. But the flip side of intimacy is the ability it gives people to know how to hurt their partner the most. Contempt goes beyond criticism in that it is a purposeful attempt to wound and demean someone at their core. It’s manifested in biting sarcasm, hostile humor, name- calling, and insults. It can be seen in a partner’s eye- rolling, sneering, or lip curling. According to Gottman, contempt is the most deadly of the horsemen because “it conveys disgust. It’s virtually impossible to resolve a problem when your partner is getting the message you’re disgusted with him or her.” Contempt rears its ugly head when couples lose respect for each other and cease trying to see things from their spouse’s perspective. They dwell on their partner’s faults, and this built up bile comes out in their arguments. Defensiveness. Even if there is truth to someone’s criticism, if it is delivered in a contemptuous manner, the person is apt to react defensively. They will go on the defensive by denying responsibility, making up excuses, leveling counter accusations, and disagreeing angrily. This only ramps up the conflict, as “you’re effectively saying, “. Instead, one partner must be the bigger person and try to respond calmly and openly. Stonewalling. After enough negative interactions of contempt and criticism, a spouse may simply shut down. They withdraw from the other person and stop listening to and engaging with them. During an argument they stop responding and give their partner the silent treatment. This often frustrates and infuriates their partner even more. In 8. 5% of marriages, the stonewaller is the man, and it is by far the most serious symptom of a broken relationship. It’s when they find a permanent and regular place in your relationship that you may be headed down the road to divorce. But every marriage, no matter how plagued it is by the horsemen, can be saved. Here are a few tips on how to turn things around: Avoid a Harsh Start- up. The best way to short circuit the four horsemen is to nip them in the bud before they entrench themselves in your relationship. One way to do that is to actively attempt to begin your arguments in such a way as to minimize negativity. Gottman calls a “harsh star- up” end badly, even if the couple tries to make nice during the discussion. What begins badly, ends badly. So when you disagree with a spouse, never start out the discussion with criticism or contempt. Try to stay calm, civil, and respectful. Build Your Friendship. In addition to the presence of the four horsemen, when Gottman is evaluating a marriage, he looks at whether the couple makes what he calls successful “repair attempts.” Repair attempts are attempts by the couple to deescalate the tension and resolve their differences. Unhappy couples often are so steeped in their negative feelings that they don’t even notice when their partner is waving the white flag. While a therapist might concentrate on having a couple negotiate their differences or work on their communication, Gottman says this is actually the wrong approach. He argues that, “The key to reviving or divorce- proofing a relationship is not in how you handle disagreements but in how you are with each other when you’re not fighting.” Whether a couple makes successful repair- attempts is not contingent on how they communicate, but on the store of positive feelings and friendship they have built up. Gottman says that happy marriages have a 5 to 1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. When you have this, you’ll still argue from time to time, but the repair- attempts will flow naturally from “positive sentiment override.” How do you build up these postive sentiments and soldify your friendship? Read on. Spend 5 Magic Hours a Week. During his studies in the lab, Dr. Gottman sought to figure out the things that happy couples do that unhappy couples do not. He found that those in strong marriages spent only 5 extra hours a week doing things to strengthen their marriage. But those hours, which he calls the “five magic hours,” were enough to make a huge difference in the quality of their marriage. Here are the five hours you should be investing in your relationship each week: Connect before you leave. Before you and your wife part ways at the beginning of the day, take the time to learn about one thing each of you have planned for the day. Estimated time: 2 minutes per day x 5 working days, totals 1. Connect when you reunite. At the end of the day, spend at least 2. Chatting at the dinner table or in bed helps you de- stress and reconnect with your partner. Estimated time: 2. Admire and appreciate. Every day, find ways to tell your wife that you love her and appreciate all that she does for you. Be specific. Don’t just say that she’s wonderful; tell her how beautiful she is, how she lights up a room, how her meatloaf is a little slice of heaven on earth, ect. Estimated time: 5 minutes per day x 7 days, totals 3. Initiate affection. When you were dating, you were all over each other. If you want to bring back some of that magic, that you need to start being more intimate with one another. Cuddle, kiss, hold hands, spoon, and so on. The more time you spend touching, the happier your marriage will be. Estimated time: 5 minutes per day x 7 days, totals 3. Go on a weekly date. Establish that you will go out on one date a week, and make this a non- negotiable commitment. If you have kids, get a babysitter. This is time for just you and your wife. The date doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive. But it needs to provide time for you two to talk, so a movie alone won’t cut it. Discuss what happened that week and your plans, hopes, and dreams for your future together. Studies have shown that doing unfamiliar things together as a couple will bring back the butterflies you experienced together at the beginning of the relationship. Seek out little hole in the wall restaurants, explore a museum you’ve never been to before, take a hike on a new trail, etc. Further Reading: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Workby John Gottman and Nan Silver. Last updated: October 1. Home - Kolbe. com. An innovative educator, two successful business owners, and a corporate coaching firm were recently recognized for their efforts to help people understand instinctive conative strengths and then use that understanding to improve their lives, their organizations, and their relationships.
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